All you stoic, non-‘touchy-feelly’, hide-your-emotions, males out there. Reach out and touch your wives and children while you can. I am serious!
For the past several days I have been radio-active and no-one is allowed to stay close to me for more than a few minutes and then can only come within 2 meters of me. Children and pregnant women cannot touch me at all.
Have you ever tried to mime a cuddle?
Groucho Marx said, “he who blows kisses is hopelessly lazy”, and “he who says he can see through a woman is missing a lot!”. I’m beginning to understand what it was like to be a leper in Bible times. Bronwen and I went for a walk along the beach last night and out onto the Cornwallis wharf to enjoy the sunset. Prince Phillip has to walk one pace behind Queen Elizabeth for protocol. Bronwen had to walk and stand 2 meters behind me for safety while we enjoyed the peace and tranquility of the moment. To be able to just drape around her waste or shoulder and to incline our heads together enjoying unspoken thoughts is precious. Do you know what it’s like not to be able to communicate through touch at times like that?
And then with the pain. I have experienced increased pain since the procedure and consequent feelings of awareness I have a supposedly incurable disease. Bronwen has times when the tears flow so easily and I cannot take her in my arms. Such times make touch a necessary crutch for emotional strengthening. And we can’t get it or give it.
Don’t take your relationship for granted. Don’t be an unfeeling monster. So you’re not tactile! It’s not about you. It’s about the ones you say you love. Love is more than words. It includes touch as a vital component.
Do it now! Touch a shoulder, a knee, a face, a hand as part of a conversation, or just as you pass by. Even if you have trouble verbalising “I love you”, say it with a touch. It doesn’t have to be all gushy, mushy or sensual, but don’t make it a ‘wet-noodle’ cuddle either where you just drape your arms around the shoulders and hang off the one who needs the cuddle. Put some spirit into it and enjoy it while you can.
And think about the single people around you. Especially those who have experienced the loving touch of a spouse but have lost it through death or divorce. I am sure they still long to be touched without having to feel someone is ‘coming on’ to them,
You don’t know what you’ve got until you can’t get it. For me its only been a few days and in a few more days I will be able to cuddle and be cuddled. I am learning a valuable lessen in the power of touch in the meantime.